SELFISHNESS

Have you ever felt like you are surrounded by people who are selfish? I bet you are and that makes me too.

I am currently living in a university residence and my family here is my friends. We are always together and we do things together. We are so close and we love each other very much. We are like sisters. SWEET HA??
The problem with me is that five out of seven are so selfish sometimes it makes me sick. It is not like I am bad-mouthing them or regarding myself and the other two as perfect. NO ONE IS PERFECT; the thing is I am just stating the facts because I and reality are one and the same thing. I might be not perfect but I am not so selfish and cruel like them, and they also know that. Let me explain to you how these five important people in my life are (forgive me but I am not going to say their names-talking about respect!).

NUMBER ONE. This one every one of us is aware of her selfishness, and she is often regarded as ‘an enemy and a friend’.

• She spies on everyone of us in order to know our secrets or about our private lives so as to spread it around the campus to all the gossip mongers.
• She is from a rich family so she is so full of herself, have pride and look at us as if we are ants just because we are not coconuts like her.
• Instead of helping you she rather laughs at you, and if she does help you, she still laughs behind your back.
• Always showing off her expensive stuff, just because you don’t have it.
  
  
  NUMBER TWO. This one was my all-time favourite until she disappointed me. We were always close and shared everything together. I still don’t know what changed her.
• She borrows everything from me but if I do the same to her she lies to me, saying that she does not have certain things I borrow.
• She is always in my room, we always spend everything I have together, but when she has things she does not come to my room and do not even want me in her room.
• She ignores me for weeks and even forgets that I exist, after that she blames me.
• She always judges people and give advices to them, but she does not want to be judged or to be offered some advice because she regards herself as knowing everything. LITTLE MISS PERFECT.
• She does not want to be disturbed when she is studying, she chases you away, but if it is you who is studying she disturbs you and don’t want to leave you alone in peace.
  
  She was not like this before. She just changed. People do change when you least expect them to.
  
  
  NUMBER THREE. This one is my favourite, but she makes me sick sometimes.
• When she is with the first one I told you about, she acts exactly like her. They are so full of themselves just because they are from rich families.
• She is so jealous it sucks; she won’t even compliment you sometimes.
  
  
  NUMBER FOUR AND FIVE. These two are exactly the same because they are always together.
• They are extremely jealous.
• They come to you and borrow your things, but they don’t want people coming to them and borrowing their things.
• They break your things and return them just like they are without saying anything or even apologising.
• They always ask for favours, but they don’t expect others to do so.
  
  
  THOSE ARE MY FRIENDS FOR YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
  
  As for the remaining two, they are my guardian angels. I don’t remember them being selfish or doing anything bad to me, or anyone for that matter-unless there are some misunderstandings since well some people are not good listeners. I always feel so safe and relaxed with them, I feel free to talk to them with everything. Believe me, they are worth it.
  
  No matter what my friends are doing to me, I love them equally, treat them equally, and I don’t want to live without them. I just forgive and forget, there is a saying that goes ‘do unto others as you will like them to do unto you’’. Of course I do not expect them to be perfect, I am not even perfect, but I just wished they could get over themselves.
  
  Guys out there, I know you might be experiencing the same. Don’t take it by heart, understand that we need people like these in our lives, because if it was not for them we would not know and understand ourselves. We would not even know the meaning of life; life could have been so meaningless to us. Each and every person in this world has both a positive and a negative side. We don’t only do positive things in our lives but we also do negative ones, and that is how we are made.
  
  I am glad I have friends in my life. I am also glad that I can talk to you guys out there because I am one person who does not know how to confront people when I have problems with them, instead I bury everything inside of me and it is not healthy. So the least I can do is to share such things with you so that they won’t eat me inside and become heavy for me.
  
  If you also have something you cannot share with people around you, you are more than welcomed to share it with me (after all that’s the whole reason I am studying Industrial Psychology). I am always here for you and you can e-mail me anytime or just say your comments. We need each other as people. We cannot live without each other even if we wanted to. So keep on spreading the spirit of ubuntu and becoming decent people. Let us do what is best for one another. From me Boitumelo, I say
  
  ‘VIVA PEOPLE FOR THE PEOPLE VIVA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!’